today at work i went to hand food out to some lady in a van with her husband, and before i could ask her if she needed any condiments or additional silverware she screams, “let me ask you something! are you people taught to say thank you to your customer?” and i was caught off guard but i answered that we are generally instructed to be courteous and that thanking someone is usually part of that. so she starts screaming in my face about how neither i or the other girl working has thanked her for her business. (the other girl takes orders at the speakers. she’s already talking to someone.) i didn’t get a chance to say anything to the woman before she unleashed her rant. she goes on to say how she is paying with her hard earned money and she deserves to be thanked and that we should be more concerned with tending to her needs and before i can say anything, she hastily grabs her bag and yells at me to have a nice fucking day. i smile and say “you too”
i don’t let assholes at work get to me. most days. but there are two things that disturbed me a lot about this exchange. she didn’t even give me a chance. took one look at me and decided i was no good. i looked at her for no longer than a half second before she decided she was having a bad day and i was going to bear the brunt of it. this woman, twice my age at least, felt it necessary to scream at me without giving me the chance to be neither rude nor polite. but more importantly, i think it’s worth being mentioned that just because you give someone your money, they do not become less human. the receipt for your six dollar and fifty cent combo meal at a fast food restaurant is not a license to degrade. i am not less-than because i work in a shitty place in a shitty town. you don’t know me. i work hard, damn hard, and have been since i was legally able to. i go to school, i pay my taxes, i try hard to do harm to no one. i am a good person. you give me an attitude like i should be ashamed of what i do, who i am, well, fuck you, there is no shame in my hard work
the only thing to be ashamed of, to be embarrassed for, is you.